Episode 110
Are You Too Nice to Be an Effective Leader?
Are you a nice leader or a kind leader? It might sound like the same thing, but Bob and Josh break down why the difference could be holding you back from becoming the leader your team actually needs.
Using a Venn diagram from The Caring Techie, they explore the uncomfortable truth that being "nice" often means avoiding conflict, telling people what they want to hear, and prioritizing short-term comfort over long-term growth. Being "kind," on the other hand, means doing the right thing even when it's uncomfortable, setting boundaries, and being honest even at the risk of conflict.
Bob shares a recent moment where he chose the nice path instead of the honest one—and why it still bothers him. Josh talks about the weight of leadership responsibility and why he'd rather have a difficult conversation than look back years later knowing he failed someone by staying silent.
They also tackle the concept of getting "pickled"—how organizations slowly brine you into niceness until you stop asking the hard questions and stop saying what needs to be said. Drawing from Jeff Watts' book "Calm Rebel Leadership," they discuss how to find your center, recognize how far you've drifted, and start the slow work of crawling back to genuine, honest leadership.
The takeaway? Don't flip the switch overnight. Baby steps, consistency, and the courage to be kind over nice will serve you and your team far better in the long run.
- Calm Rebel Leadership by Geoff Watts
- Harvard Business Review - "Is Your Leadership Style Too Nice?"
- The Caring Techie - Nice vs Kind Venn Diagram
Stay Connected and Informed with Our Newsletters
Josh Anderson's "Leadership Lighthouse"
Dive deeper into the world of Agile leadership and management with Josh Anderson's "Leadership Lighthouse." This bi-weekly newsletter offers insights, tips, and personal stories to help you navigate the complexities of leadership in today's fast-paced tech environment. Whether you're a new manager or a seasoned leader, you'll find valuable guidance and practical advice to enhance your leadership skills. Subscribe to "Leadership Lighthouse" for the latest articles and exclusive content right to your inbox.
Bob Galen's "Agile Moose"
Bob Galen's "Agile Moose" is a must-read for anyone interested in Agile practices, team dynamics, and personal growth within the tech industry. The newsletter features in-depth analysis, case studies, and actionable tips to help you excel in your Agile journey. Bob brings his extensive experience and thoughtful perspectives directly to you, covering everything from foundational Agile concepts to advanced techniques. Join a community of Agile enthusiasts and practitioners by subscribing to "Agile Moose."
Do More Than Listen:
We publish video versions of every episode and post them on our YouTube page.
Help Us Spread The Word:
Love our content? Help us out by sharing on social media, rating our podcast/episodes on iTunes, or by giving to our Patreon campaign. Every time you give, in any way, you empower our mission of helping as many agilists as possible. Thanks for sharing!
